I've been following you for years - one because I love your writing and two because I have two daughters who are 18 months apart. The way you shared stories of your girls, always resonated with me. Mine are now going into 7th and 8th grade, and I think about them going to college and it scares the CRAP out of me. Does this feeling dissipate? Thank you! Obviously here for so much more than food tips :)
i'm a people pleaser - my partner often asks "why are you looking at me" during dinner (we usually watch the latest episode of something while we eat) when he knows exactly why: i'm trying to gauge how much he likes what i made. he's always honest and i'm also very lucky that he likes almost everything i make, but i'm trying to see what he's eating first, if he's picking up the plate, scraping it, or if he's going to ask for seconds, if there's something there he's kind of eating around or dumping a lot of condiments on, etc.
for me, people enjoying what i've made is the whole point, the root of the satisfaction. truly i can't imagine just deciding what to make without asking someone what they'd like to have, or if there are things they don't care for or can't eat. also i would re-live the horrible awkwardness of making something and then finding out a guest or guests couldn't eat it every night before bed for at least the next forty years. and i do try to avoid that.
if you don't want to please your guests, then why have them? to experiment on? to have a captive audience for your technically proficient beef wellington skills when one guest is a vegetarian and the other doesn't like mushrooms? doesn't make sense to me. like going to a club night and the dj just wants to play his ~rare b-sides~ or whatever. a social gathering is meant to be inclusive and fun.
"I’d like to make sure you are excited to come and full when you leave." words to live by and ones which i've saved to my notepad. thank you.
I made the brothy beans last weekend for a street taco party. I substituted burrata with queso fresco and used cilantro jalapeno pesto instead of basil. It was as amazing as the original. I agree I think we totally need to normalize and thus validate our guests food wishes. Anne
Hello, Thanks for the pottery link. I'd love to see a story with a list of your favorite places to buy pottery (esp. online) or in NYC. I am looking for a wedding gift that will feel special.
I've been following you for years - one because I love your writing and two because I have two daughters who are 18 months apart. The way you shared stories of your girls, always resonated with me. Mine are now going into 7th and 8th grade, and I think about them going to college and it scares the CRAP out of me. Does this feeling dissipate? Thank you! Obviously here for so much more than food tips :)
wonderful read :) i hust made your pork ragu for a spontaneous housewarming party! not one bite was left!!
My oldest just left for her first year of college. Please share how you are coping. Thanks
i'm a people pleaser - my partner often asks "why are you looking at me" during dinner (we usually watch the latest episode of something while we eat) when he knows exactly why: i'm trying to gauge how much he likes what i made. he's always honest and i'm also very lucky that he likes almost everything i make, but i'm trying to see what he's eating first, if he's picking up the plate, scraping it, or if he's going to ask for seconds, if there's something there he's kind of eating around or dumping a lot of condiments on, etc.
for me, people enjoying what i've made is the whole point, the root of the satisfaction. truly i can't imagine just deciding what to make without asking someone what they'd like to have, or if there are things they don't care for or can't eat. also i would re-live the horrible awkwardness of making something and then finding out a guest or guests couldn't eat it every night before bed for at least the next forty years. and i do try to avoid that.
if you don't want to please your guests, then why have them? to experiment on? to have a captive audience for your technically proficient beef wellington skills when one guest is a vegetarian and the other doesn't like mushrooms? doesn't make sense to me. like going to a club night and the dj just wants to play his ~rare b-sides~ or whatever. a social gathering is meant to be inclusive and fun.
"I’d like to make sure you are excited to come and full when you leave." words to live by and ones which i've saved to my notepad. thank you.
I made the brothy beans last weekend for a street taco party. I substituted burrata with queso fresco and used cilantro jalapeno pesto instead of basil. It was as amazing as the original. I agree I think we totally need to normalize and thus validate our guests food wishes. Anne
Hello, Thanks for the pottery link. I'd love to see a story with a list of your favorite places to buy pottery (esp. online) or in NYC. I am looking for a wedding gift that will feel special.